My college sweetheart whom I have dated for the past 5 years decided to move out of town.
On that account, he decided to break off the relationship with me because he says that he is not ready to be in a relationship right now, but wouldn’t mind to come back with me once he’s ready (which is according to him in the next 5 years – after he has finished fooling around).
He thinks he’s being a nice guy because he was “honest” that he needed five years to fool around, but all he’s doing is giving you false hope at a non-existent future.
Watch as your relationship grows with your committed efforts.
Because you’ll be looking in the eyes of your real boyfriend – the one who wants to be with you.
If he was invested, then he would do everything in his power on a daily basis to make sure that the woman he loved was happy and wanted to stay with them.
Sure, he’ll beg to come back – because that’s HIS self-preservation mechanism – but you will be strong enough to resist him.
It has now been a year and a half, and during that time, I have been dating this new guy who I really like.
My ex basically keeps me on a leash – he’s not my boyfriend but he contacts me every day and knowing that I love him, it’s hard not to resist.
Until you cut him off, you will never be free to love again.
My ex asks if I want to come back with him – but I’m worried that due to his past behavior (non-committal behavior) that he will just end up breaking my heart again and again just like before.