Let’s discuss the top three reasons online dating does not cure – or even reduce – loneliness. While relationships that start online certainly can become deep and satisfying (many people find their life-mates online), gaining this kind of depth takes time. Technology is just about the best (read: most efficient) way to meet new people these days.
You won’t achieve the kind of relationship that reduces loneliness in an hour or two of online dating. Gone are the days of striking up a conversation with a stranger at the bank, and for most people, that’s just fine.
You see faces of potential partners wiz by and for a moment, it helps. We’ve all been in this moment – the moment when a twinge of loneliness spurs an online dating session.
But is this really a good habit to get into when feeling lonely?
The thing is, you're effectively dating online whether you want to or not. Burglars can know enough about you and your habits to clean you totally out.
There is simply no privacy on the internet, and once you get into the mental health red-light district it's all over but the body count. Mothers of children just open their doors to child molesters and let them waltz right in.
Most people who have performed this late-night ritual will say that no, it’s not the best way to handle loneliness.
Any sense of hope for connection is wiped out with one, “Hey baby, you’re sexy.” You plummet back to Earth.
Predators, trolls, and crooks very rarely give of their time to help others. You very well may find your husband or wife online, but you won’t get the emotional benefits of a husband or wife right away. Give me a picture and a humorous tagline, thank you.But there’s ample evidence that technology is the best (read: most accurate) way to get to know someone.Must admit I'm guilty of doing exactly that - feeling bored and signing up for online dating. I still maintain a strict criteria regarding the guys I meet and am not prepared to just date someone for the sake of it (I figure yes, I am lonely but I am doing something pro-active about it..not desperate yet! I have found (for the most part) it has given me some much-needed confidence post-divorce, but have met my fair share of fools and misogynists too. There are pictures, sure, and dialog, words bantered back and forth by someone. In the pre-internet days, you met someone, and you and your family and friends likely knew him and his family for years.My friends are all busy with their families (I have kids too), but it's hard to meet guys my age (48) and know 1. Tip: join a paid-for dating service, the free ones attract too many men/women you would rather avoid if you're after a serious relationship. There is no longer such a cushion for verification.