Dating your spouse separated
There are some real deal-breakers in their relationship that make it unworkable at the moment, but neither are ready to walk away.Nicole and her husband may very well find their way back to one another, but if they do it will be the 2.0 version of them. Because it needs to be different for both of them to be happy.When a relationship is clearly in a broken place, but you’re not quite ready to give up on it and walk away, a separation provides a compassionate "pause button" that can provide you both with a gold mine of valuable information.
Your spouse can potentially make a case that you began a new relationship before you decided to divorce, while you were still happily married.
My recommendation is to plan for 60-90 days apart before any final decisions are made.
If it’s not possible to be apart physically, establish some ground rules so there still feels like some emotional separation under the same roof.
We can’t see all the way to Atlanta from Columbus, so we never get in our cars and begin the journey.
We can’t see all the stops along the way ahead of time, and that unknown keeps us paralyzed in the same spot, in the same patterns, and the same painful experiences.