Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women. However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.For foreign women it’s a completely different story.Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.
They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money!Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.