Dating a man 10 years older than you
Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.I’m currently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister.It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.
(“Just because you’re 44 and you don’t like to do ___ doesn’t mean ___.”) Just as you wouldn’t want him to continuously blame certain things you do on your age (like you’re a child), I wouldn’t recommend doing the same. An older man might know what he wants for himself in the next span of years, but so do his family members.
Fortunately, that’s changing as more older-woman and younger-man couplings make headlines.
Actress Robin Wright, 47, is engaged to fellow actor Ben Foster, 33.
And if he likes a certain type of music or movie that is a bit “old” for you, don’t be too dramatic when he talks about his love for it (i.e. Don’t get too bent out of shape if a question is asked of you that you didn’t see coming (“When are you guys getting married?? Just be honest about the fact that you’re taking things slow (if that’s what you’re doing) and keep it cool (Or, “You gotta ask him” always works).
Also be ready for nosy friends (especially women friends) who might think they’re entitled to question you about your cooking abilities, and what you’d be willing to do for their friend if you’re around for the long-term.